Should I try again with my ex now I'm married

Dear Bunmi, I got married two years ago when I hadn’t completely fallen out of love with my ex-girlfriend. I met my wife on the rebound after my ex left me for another man. But the relationship didn’t work out and she’s started e-mailing me. Lovers My wife is a kind, gentle and good company but I now realise that my ex is the love of my life. My marriage is currently childless. What should I do? Smart, by e-mail. At 28, still a virgin and no girlfriend Dear Smart, Before you do anything rash, like throwing away your marriage, stop and think about your real feelings for your ex. It’s easy to look back at a past relationship with rose-tinted glasses, but she was the one who chose to finish with you and must have had her reason, which may well still exist. I would try to make your marriage work if I were you. Don’t rush back to your ex without being sure she’s not also settling for you on the rebound. What happens if what she considers a better option shows up again?